Any of this sound familiar?
You want an epic relationship but just can’t figure it out. There are no good ones available.
Nobody wants a relationship. At least nobody who you actually want to be with.
New person…same old story…another one bites the dust.
You get hurt. Let down. Frustrated. Annoyed. Here we go again.
Another fuck boy. Another emotionally unavailable man. Another horrible date with someone who seemed so promising. Another woman who can’t commit to you. Another woman who "just wants to be friends." Another possible relationship just ended because they only want something casual? Say what now? They’re in a relationship with someone else!? What the fuck! Another situation where I sacrificed everything turned to absolute bull crap just like that!
Dating Sucks! I hate it!
I hate it so much that if there was a human being named “dating” I would stick my tongue out and yell in its face, “You suck, dating!” and walk away shaking my ass so dating knew exactly what it was missing.
I wanna quit dating! Fuck this shit! I don’t need it!
Nothing makes me want to quit dating more than when my Great Aunt Margaret asks me why I’m still single at every family dinner. And every time I imagine myself throwing a single Turkey leg at her.
But I don’t because I refuse to let the big bully dating win.
I want love so fucking bad!
God damn it, I freaking love love!
But I don’t have it. I mean I love my friends. I love my cat. I really love my cat but my cat sucks at snuggling and is kind of an asshole. I want love love, you know?
I want curl my toes, weak in the knees, butterfly in my heart, we make each other better people kind of love.
I see cute couples taking selfies and I want to steal their freaking phone and throw it in a god damn river. I hate these couples. I hate these couples because I want what they have!
I guess if I want my dream relationship I will have to get good at dating? Like really freaking good at it? Like a superstar, badass, dater who dates like it ain't no thang!?
Oh god! I think I’m gunna be sick!
And I thought a pelican would just deliver my dream partner out of thin air like a baby on a doorstep!
I guess not.
My dream relationship is like this majestic forest in the distance with all these magical fruits and the dating scene in front of me is this barren landscape littered with fuck weeds, land-mines, vultures and river rapids and all I wanna do is press eject, suck on a popsicle and call it a day!
What is wrong with me?
Why can’t I find love?
Why can’t I figure out this freaking dating thing?
I’m freaking amazing! Who wouldn’t wanna wake up to me every morning!? Who wouldn’t wanna get up on this shit?!
WHAT AM I MISSING???
• Do you follow chemistry, physical and sexual attraction down romantic dead-ends that leave you constantly feeling like a love crash test dummy?
• Are you perpetually drawn to unavailable men and women who can’t actually choose you?
• Is your biggest dating complaint that your city sucks for dating?
• Think there are no good men or women available?
• Do you struggle with boundaries in dating and relationships?
• Do you constantly self-abandon and overstep your intuition in search of love that doesn’t love you back?
• Has your love life historically been the biggest kryptonite and Achilles heal in your life?
You're here, reading this right now because you have a dream of TRUE LOVE in your heart. You have this vision for this incredible relationship with the man or woman of your dreams.
You know, the whole sweet love deal. You respect one another, cherish and admire one another. You bring out the best in each other. You gush about each other to friends and talk about one another like you just won the freaking lottery. You laugh like idiots. You adventure like kids. You make love like animals. You make each other come alive. You make one another feel more yourself than ever before. You feel safer, more understood and seen than ever before. They’re your best friend and you’re theirs. You are life partners. Adventure buddies. Partners in crime. If you’re the bank robber, they’re the getaway driver, door open, with fake passports and fake names, two tickets to Venezuela in the glove compartment.
TRUE LOVE BABY!
The good shit. The best shit. Heart emoticon, dancing tambourine monkeys. The shit that makes the song and dance of life so fucking worth it!
BUT WHAT LIES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR MAJESTIC FOREST IS A RAGING SHIT STORM TERRAIN FULL OF FUCK WEEDS AND NASTY ASSHOLE SHRUBS WHO WANT TO BLOW YOU UP AND EAT YOU ALIVE!
WHAT LIES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DREAM IS THE FREAKING DATING WORLD. PUKE!
What a buzz kill right?
We're talking about a romantic dream and practically salivating from our heart strings, when the nightmare reality that we gotta date to get there just woke us up in a gross ass night sweat!
YES! We have to date and sort through the fuck weeds to get to the majestic forest of our heart’s desire!
But you can do it. You are the relational hero you’ve been waiting for. The dating space is the battle ground you shall conquer.
Most people date searching for the man or woman of their dreams without first becoming the hero of their own story.
They date without actually being connected to their most honest, authentic self.
They want Prince Charming and Princess Hot Stuff to just fall in their lap like some witch’s magic spell rather than actually having to sharpen their dating tools.
Or they don’t know how to date and stay connected to their truth. They always mold, shift, change and accommodate who they are and who they need to be in order to be worthy of the love they crave.
So rather than slaying fuck boy dragons and emotionally unavailable trolls, they get chewed up and spit out time and time again.
Without realizing that if we have to abandon ourselves to get love, then that’s not actually love.
They overstep their intuition right into dead-end dungeons.
And live in a powerless victim state.
There are no good men in my city. No good women. All men only want sex. All women only want men with money.
Have you seen the stats??? Buzzfeed just wrote a post rating my city as the worst city for singles.
See I’m not crazy!
Where are all the good men at yo??? Where is an attractive woman who can also hold a conversation???
All my Tinder matches are bunk and my latest Bumble match just asked me if I like to party.
DON’T BE A RELATIONAL RACOON, DUMPSTER DIVING FOR LOVE...
BE A LOVE LION.
TIME TO FUCKING ROAR!
When we're dumpster diving for love we don’t know what we need, or don’t know how to powerfully communicate what we need.
So we keep dating and dating in hopes that somehow a complete stranger will be able to walk into our live's out of nowhere and somehow be able to give us the exact thing we've never quite been able to figure out how to give ourselves.
We expect someone to commit to us when we've never even figured out the secret sauce to committing to ourselves.
And we're mystified, mind-boggled and keep wondering why dating never works and why it’s always a shit storm disaster?
Cause you can’t succeed until you know where you’re aiming and stick to that WHY with courage, confidence and compassion.
We struggle to set boundaries.
We play the role of “cool girl” or "nice guy" you know the one who doesn’t have any needs and just goes with the flow- but deep down we really don’t believe we're worthy of love in our most honest expression.
But that doesn’t work either.
All that does is create relationships that don’t feel good to be in because it doesn’t matter what we get, if we had to lose ourselves to get it, we’ve already lost.
We don’t know why we’re attracted to what we’re attracted to – so we keep following these attractions and chemical feelings of lust, even if they lead to perpetual dysfunction and frustration.
The Problem is you.
The Solution is also YOU.
To get something different, you have to start doing something differently.
We’re here to help you start doing something differently so you can get different results.
The results of your dreams.
The first step to empowerment on your journey of calling in the love you desire is done by taking complete accountability for the results you’ve gotten.
The second step is committing yourself to working through the internal blocks that have historically held you back from your heart’s desire.
If you’re ready to take accountability (admit you’re your problem) and ready to commit to overcoming these internal blocks (believing you’re also your solution).
All participants of our Date Your Soulmate Challenge who register for Confident Dating receive our registration BONUS' which is access to both our:
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Your true love, relational dream IS possible, lets get you there!
Kelsey & Jamie