Does Dating Suck For You?

IS TRUE LOVE MISSING FROM YOUR LIFE?


Any of this sound familiar? 

You want an epic relationship but just can’t figure it out. There are no good ones available.

Nobody wants a relationship. At least nobody who you actually want to be with.

New person…same old story…another one bites the dust.

You get hurt. Let down. Frustrated. Annoyed. Here we go again.

Another fuck boy. Another emotionally unavailable man. Another horrible date with someone who seemed so promising. Another woman who can’t commit to you. Another woman who "just wants to be friends." Another possible relationship just ended because they only want something casual? Say what now? They’re in a relationship with someone else!? What the fuck! Another situation where I sacrificed everything turned to absolute bull crap just like that!

Dating Sucks! I hate it!

I hate it so much that if there was a human being named “dating” I would stick my tongue out and yell in its face, “You suck, dating!” and walk away shaking my ass so dating knew exactly what it was missing.



I wanna quit dating! Fuck this shit! I don’t need it!

Nothing makes me want to quit dating more than when my Great Aunt Margaret asks me why I’m still single at every family dinner. And every time I imagine myself throwing a single Turkey leg at her.

But I don’t because I refuse to let the big bully dating win.

I don’t because I want love.

I want love more than anything!

I want love so fucking bad!

God damn it, I freaking love love!


Love is like my favourite thing. It’s not like my favourite thing. It’s actually my favourite thing.

But I don’t have it. I mean I love my friends. I love my cat. I really love my cat but my cat sucks at snuggling and is kind of an asshole. I want love love, you know?

I want
curl my toes, weak in the knees, butterfly in my heart, we make each other better people kind of love.


I see cute couples taking selfies and I want to steal their freaking phone and throw it in a god damn river. I hate these couples. I hate these couples because I want what they have!

I wish I could just snap my fingers and be in my dream relationship with my dream partner and ride off into the sunset with both of us riding miniature donkeys and live happily ever after.

But I have to date first. Gross.


I guess if I want love I can’t quit dating?

I guess if I want my dream relationship I will have to get good at dating? Like really freaking good at it? Like a superstar, badass, dater who dates like it ain't no thang!?

Oh god! I think I’m gunna be sick!

And I thought a pelican would just deliver my dream partner out of thin air like a baby on a doorstep!

I guess not.

My dream relationship is like this majestic forest in the distance with all these magical fruits and the dating scene in front of me is this barren landscape littered with fuck weeds, land-mines, vultures and river rapids and all I wanna do is press eject, suck on a popsicle and call it a day!

What is wrong with me?
Why can’t I find love?
Why can’t I figure out this freaking dating thing?

I’m freaking amazing! Who wouldn’t wanna wake up to me every morning!? Who wouldn’t wanna get up on this shit?!

WHAT AM I MISSING???




Do you struggle to be attracted to what’s good for you in dating?



• Do you follow chemistry, physical and sexual attraction down romantic dead-ends that leave you constantly feeling like a love crash test dummy?

• Are you perpetually drawn to unavailable men and women who can’t actually choose you?

• Is your biggest dating complaint that your city sucks for dating?

• Think there are no good men or women available?

• Do you struggle with boundaries in dating and relationships?

• Do you constantly self-abandon and overstep your intuition in search of love that doesn’t love you back?

• Has your love life historically been the biggest kryptonite and Achilles heal in your life?



You're here, reading this right now because you have a dream of TRUE LOVE in your heart. You have this vision for this incredible relationship with the man or woman of your dreams.

You know, the whole sweet love deal. You respect one another, cherish and admire one another. You bring out the best in each other. You gush about each other to friends and talk about one another like you just won the freaking lottery. You laugh like idiots. You adventure like kids. You make love like animals. You make each other come alive. You make one another feel more yourself than ever before. You feel safer, more understood and seen than ever before. They’re your best friend and you’re theirs. You are life partners. Adventure buddies. Partners in crime. If you’re the bank robber, they’re the getaway driver, door open, with fake passports and fake names, two tickets to Venezuela in the glove compartment.

TRUE LOVE BABY!

The good shit. The best shit. Heart emoticon, dancing tambourine monkeys. The shit that makes the song and dance of life so fucking worth it!

THIS IS YOUR DREAM.

THIS IS YOUR MAJESTIC FOREST.



BUT WHAT LIES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR MAJESTIC FOREST IS A RAGING SHIT STORM TERRAIN FULL OF FUCK WEEDS AND NASTY ASSHOLE SHRUBS WHO WANT TO BLOW YOU UP AND EAT YOU ALIVE!

WHAT LIES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR DREAM IS THE FREAKING DATING WORLD. PUKE!

What a buzz kill right?

We're talking about a romantic dream and practically salivating from our heart strings, when the nightmare reality that we gotta date to get there just woke us up in a gross ass night sweat!

YES! We have to date and sort through the fuck weeds to get to the majestic forest of our heart’s desire!

But you can do it. You are the relational hero you’ve been waiting for. The dating space is the battle ground you shall conquer.



THE PROBLEM IS…

Most people date searching for the man or woman of their dreams without first becoming the hero of their own story.

They date without actually being connected to their most honest, authentic self.

They want Prince Charming and Princess Hot Stuff to just fall in their lap like some witch’s magic spell rather than actually having to sharpen their dating tools.

Or they don’t know how to date and stay connected to their truth. They always mold, shift, change and accommodate who they are and who they need to be in order to be worthy of the love they crave.

So rather than slaying fuck boy dragons and emotionally unavailable trolls, they get chewed up and spit out time and time again.

Without realizing that if we have to abandon ourselves to get love, then that’s not actually love.

They overstep their intuition right into dead-end dungeons.

And live in a powerless victim state.

There are no good men in my city. No good women. All men only want sex. All women only want men with money.

Have you seen the stats??? Buzzfeed just wrote a post rating my city as the worst city for singles.

See I’m not crazy!  

Where are all the good men at yo??? Where is an attractive woman who can also hold a conversation???

All my Tinder matches are bunk and my latest Bumble match just asked me if I like to party.

FML!


LOOKING FOR LOVE ON A DATING APP IS LIKE LOOKING FOR LOVE IN A TRASH CAN.

DON’T BE A RELATIONAL RACOON, DUMPSTER DIVING FOR LOVE...


BE A LOVE LION.

TIME TO FUCKING ROAR!


When we're dumpster diving for love we don’t know what we need, or don’t know how to powerfully communicate what we need.

So we keep dating and dating in hopes that somehow a complete stranger will be able to walk into our live's out of nowhere and somehow be able to give us the exact thing we've never quite been able to figure out how to give ourselves.

We expect someone to commit to us when we've never even figured out the secret sauce to committing to ourselves.

And we're mystified, mind-boggled and keep wondering why dating never works and why it’s always a shit storm disaster?

Cause you can’t succeed until you know where you’re aiming and stick to that WHY with courage, confidence and compassion.

We struggle to set boundaries.

We play the role of “cool girl” or "nice guy" you know the one who doesn’t have any needs and just goes with the flow- but deep down we really don’t believe we're worthy of love in our most honest expression.

But that doesn’t work either.


All that does is create relationships that don’t feel good to be in because it doesn’t matter what we get, if we had to lose ourselves to get it, we’ve already lost.

We don’t know why we’re attracted to what we’re attracted to – so we keep following these attractions and chemical feelings of lust, even if they lead to perpetual dysfunction and frustration.

THE PROBLEM?

The Problem is you.


THE SOLUTION?

The Solution is also YOU.  


You get what you accept.


To get something different, you have to start doing something differently.

We’re here to help you start doing something differently so you can get different results.

Better results.

The results of your dreams.

The first step to empowerment on your journey of calling in the love you desire is done by taking complete accountability for the results you’ve gotten.

The second step is committing yourself to working through the internal blocks that have historically held you back from your heart’s desire.

If you’re ready to take accountability (admit you’re your problem) and ready to commit to overcoming these internal blocks (believing you’re also your solution).

LET’S GO!

Let’s bridge the gap between your relational dream of true love and your crap shoot reality.


 
READY TO MASTER YOUR DATING LIFE??

In 6 short weeks we'll be guiding you through the process of dating for TRUE LOVE- it's a whole different ball game. Partnership is the big leagues friends and we're taking you on a 6 week training camp immersion. 

If you'd like breakthroughs in any of the following areas this course is for you: 


Understanding your relational and love template, how it was programmed, how to reprogram it and how to clean your love lens so you can spot the high quality people who are able to meet you fully. 

• Get a handle on your subconscious blocks to true love that manifest in behaviours such as: co-dependency, rushing commitment, avoidance of commitment, over-giving, over-investing, being a "fixer" or "therapist" to a new partner, choosing wounded birds and nursing them back to relational life, entertaining low level investment, making excuses for poor behaviour, inability to keep your boundaries in a relationship, dropping your standards, mind-reading expectations, not communicating your needs, conflict avoidance AND turn them into your relational superpower.

• Transform your relational kryptonite "type" and unlock the keys to being attracted to what is good for you, instead of the crack chemical high your kryptonite always gives you but never can deliver 

• Understand what is behind the feeling of "never quite being chosen fully" or what the heck is going on when people are one foot in and one foot out and how to drop that crappy love habit and boost the inner worth game to kick this pattern once and for all. 

• Learn to speak the self-worth code in date-land to filter out commitment-phobes, mind-fuckers, time wasters and all other riff-raff that are clogging up the doorway to your heart. 

• How to rejection proof your love life so your self-worth doesn't plummet when you encounter people who can't/don't want to commit. 

• Your hidden open backdoors that are preventing YOUR full-hearted commitment (YUP they are there) and how to set the tone for love in your dating and relating life by becoming a Red-Flag Spotting Pro and Drama Ditcher.

• Find out once and for all where the high quality human headquarters is located in your city so you never have to utter those words again "but where are all the good ones at?"

• Building your high quality standards filter, equipped with your boundaries, your personal and relational needs, and the communication skill sets to share your essence and intention without manipulation or pressure. 

• The art of pacing and the skills for partner selection. Learn how to pace for partnership, including how much communication is the "right" amount, when to share non-negotiables, when to have sex, how to navigate the conversations of exclusivity and commitment, and the most respectful way to end something if it's not a fit for you. 



You want all of that AND some direct support in your dating and love life? 

All good, we got you. You're going to want in on the INNER CIRCLE Group Coaching Track. 



In the INNER CIRCLE Group Coaching Track you receive the entire curriculum PLUS 6 group coaching calls lead by both Kelsey and Jamie.

Each participant in the inner circle receives one spotlight session where we deep dive into your personal story and dating life.

In addition the group coaching track receives regular Q/A sessions with us directly for the duration of the program.

NEXT ONLINE PROGRAM BEGINS: SEPTEMBER 2019 

Date and time: TBA

Module 1- Understanding Your Love Lens + Sensitivity Super Power
Module 2- Your Relational Why and Becoming Rejection Proof
Module 3- Closing Backdoors, Spotting Red Flags and Dropping Drama
Module 4- The High Quality Headquarters
Module 5- Your High Quality Standards Filter
Module 6- Pacing and Partner Selection

FIRST GROUP COACHING CALL BEGINS:

One week after your first content module is delivered, so you have time to complete the content for us to jam with you on it. 

COACHING CALL TIME:  TBA

CALL SCHEDULE: TBA


All group coaching calls are recorded and available for download after our sessions.

•Spotlight sessions will be self-selected on a first come first serve basis, meaning the first people to register for the INNER circle are given first selection on which week they wish to receive their spotlight session on. You are advised to choose a week that you feel most drawn to the content topic, or know you have some work to do in that area. 


REGISTRATION

If you just wish to do the program in the self-study track you have two registration options: 



If you're ALL IN for the INNER CIRCLE Group Coaching Program + The Online Self-Study these are your registration options: 



We're only opening 12 spaces for the VIP Inner Circle so if you're looking for a little extra support sign up for one of them pronto! 


BONUS MATERIALS

All participants of our Date Your Soulmate Challenge who register for Confident Dating receive our registration BONUS' which is access to both our:

Build-A-Bae and Relational Appreciation 101 Webinar's

Additionally registration to the INNER CIRCLE Group coaching program receive these bonus's plus an exclusive LIVE Relational Repair Session with Jamie and Kelsey prior to the program launch, where we share some of our relational repair secrets, dealing with conflict BEFORE commitment and how we stay connected even when we're pissed- it's an art ;)

If you would like to be added to the wait list for the VIP Confident Dating Inner Circle coaching program email us directly at [email protected]

 

Your true love, relational dream IS possible, lets get you there!

Kelsey & Jamie

 

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